Avadhūta’s Teachers: Python, Ocean, Moth, Bee, Elephant, Deer, Fish—and Piṅgalā’s Song of Detachment
कियत् प्रियं ते व्यभजन् कामा ये कामदा नरा: । आद्यन्तवन्तो भार्याया देवा वा कालविद्रुता: ॥ ३६ ॥
kiyat priyaṁ te vyabhajan kāmā ye kāma-dā narāḥ ādy-antavanto bhāryāyā devā vā kāla-vidrutāḥ
Men provide sense gratification for women, but all these men, and even the demigods in heaven, have a beginning and an end. They are all temporary creations who will be dragged away by time. Therefore how much actual pleasure or happiness could any of them ever give to their wives?
In this material world everyone is basically pursuing his personal sense gratification, and thus everyone is being ruined by the influence of time. On the material platform no one actually helps anyone else. So-called material love is simply a cheating process, as the lady Piṅgalā is now discovering.
This verse teaches that pleasure received from lust-driven relationships is limited and unreliable; time inevitably ends such arrangements, so they cannot give lasting satisfaction.
To emphasize that no worldly shelter—human or divine—is permanent; all conditioned enjoyers are subject to kāla (time), so one should seek a higher, eternal refuge.
Don’t build your identity on romantic/sexual validation or temporary attention; cultivate inner steadiness and redirect longing toward lasting spiritual practice and devotion.