Shloka 12
Śrī-nivāsa: Traits and Conditions for the Abode of Prosperity (श्री-निवासः)
परस्य वेश्माभिरतामलज्जा- मेवंविधां तां परिवर्जयामि । जो घरके बर्तनोंको सुव्यवस्थित रूपसे न रखकर इधर-उधर बिखेरे रहती हैं, सोच- समझकर काम नहीं करती हैं, सदा अपने पतिके प्रतिकूल ही बोलती हैं, दूसरोंके घरोंमें घूमने-फिरनेमें आसक्त रहती हैं और लज्जाको सर्वथा छोड़ बैठती हैं, उनको मैं त्याग देती हूँ ।।
bhīṣma uvāca | parasya veśmābhiratām alajjām evaṃvidhāṃ tāṃ parivarjayāmi | pāpām acokṣām avalehinīṃ ca vyapetadhairyāṃ kalahapriyāṃ ca ||
ଭୀଷ୍ମ କହିଲେ—ଯେ ସ୍ତ୍ରୀ ପରର ଘରେ ଘୁରିବାରେ ଆସକ୍ତ, ନିର୍ଲଜ୍ଜ ଓ ଏପରି ସ୍ୱଭାବର—ତାକୁ ମୁଁ ପରିହାର କରେ। ଏହିପରି ଯେ ସ୍ତ୍ରୀ ପାପାଚାରିଣୀ, ସଂୟମହୀନ, ଲୋଭରେ ପରର ଜିନିଷକୁ ମଧ୍ୟ ଗିଲିବାକୁ ଉଦ୍ୟତ (ଅବଲେହିନୀ), ଧୈର୍ଯ୍ୟଚ୍ୟୁତ ଓ କଳହପ୍ରିୟ—ତାକୁ ମଧ୍ୟ ମୁଁ ତ୍ୟାଗ କରେ।
भीष्म उवाच
Educational Q&A
Bhishma frames household and social dharma in terms of self-restraint and propriety: one should avoid a spouse/partner whose habits show shamelessness, instability, greed, and a love of quarrel, because such traits undermine harmony, trust, and ethical life.
In Anushasana Parva, Bhishma instructs Yudhishthira on dharma. Here he lists undesirable traits in a woman (as a prospective wife/householder), stating that he would shun one who frequents others’ homes, lacks modesty, behaves sinfully, is greedy, unstable, and quarrelsome.