Shloka 20
त्रिवर्गविचारः
Tri-varga Deliberation: Dharma, Artha, Kāma
अहं त्वयि मयि त्वं च मयि ते तेषु चाप्यहम् । पूर्वसम्बन्धिसंयोगं नैतद् दान्तो निषेवते
ahaṃ tvayi mayi tvaṃ ca mayi te teṣu cāpy aham | pūrva-sambandhi-saṃyogaṃ na etad dānto niṣevate ||
“মই তোমাত আসক্ত, আৰু তুমি মোত; তেওঁলোকে মোত অনুৰক্ত, আৰু মই তেওঁলোকত”—এইদৰে পূৰ্ব-সম্পৰ্কৰ সংযোগ-জালত জিতেন্দ্ৰিয় পুৰুষে মন নলগায়।
भीष्म उवाच
Educational Q&A
A disciplined person does not dwell on mutual attachments and old relational bonds (“I love you, you love me, they love me, I love them”). Such mental fixation is an entanglement; restraint means not feeding it, preserving clarity and steadiness in dharmic conduct.
In the Shanti Parva’s instruction on righteous living and inner discipline, Bhishma advises the listener that one should not mentally rehearse or cling to past associations and reciprocal affections; the self-controlled avoid cultivating these thoughts.